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2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation: Experiencing Sexual Assault/Sexual Violence As A Victim

Last episode, the beginning of the 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Awareness Avocation began, and I discussed the Instagram challenge I’m participating in hosted by the National Sexual Violence Resource Center. Now I’m not the most creative person in the world, but I am having a great time putting posts together and engaging with other participants – finding out more about them and how they serve their population. If you would like to participate in the remainder of the challenge for a chance to win a $25 Etsy gift card, locate the National Sexual Violence Resource Center on Instagram. Their handle is @nsvrc. You can also find the challenge listed on their website at www.nsvrc.org.

I am not currently sponsored by the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, but I wanted to share some of the activities they are hosting. Not only are they hosting an Instagram challenge, there are so many free online events with wonderful resources to inform you about the different populations affected by sexual assault and sexual violence, and how they are affected. I know from personal experience, showing up to these events support you in knowing how to reach out if you are in need of support or how to best support someone else victimized or have survived it. I will also provide the links for near the end of the blog post.

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault.

Leave a comment after listening to today’s episode or by the voice message feature on the podcast. I would love to hear from you.

 

 

2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim Proactive Eye™

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault. According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.  A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence. Last week's episode National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal With Granny Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/   Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/  ***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny Connect with me: Heal With Granny  LinkedIn  Alignable  HappsTV Instagram – @proactiveeye Twitter – @proactiveeye Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/ — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/support
  1. 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim
  2. 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation
  3. Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness
  4. Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself
  5. Quarter 1 Q&A

LAST WEEK’S EPISODE

National Sexual Assault Awareness Instagram Challenge

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474.

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 
 
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My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.
Thank you for listening.  I appreciate your support.
Much love, peace, light, and healing vibes family!

Granny💚💜💙

HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Official PROACTIVE EYE-1 logo
Instagram – @proactiveeye 
Twitter – @proactiveeye 
Happs – @ElegantGranny
Email: proactiveeye@gmail.com
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Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/

2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation

Last episode, I completed the transitions series covering many of the things survivors of abuse deal with as they adjust to a freer way of living after a life of abuse. All of the topics are listed and linked near the end of the blog post for you if you missed them.

Sexual Assault and Sexual Violence are important to talk about. So many people feel ashamed of what has happened to them or have been threatened of what will happen to them if they tell their story. No one, absolutely no one, should ever feel like they are worthless, have no value, or not important because of this traumatic event. It does not matter what gender, age, race, nationality, sexual orientation, or creed, no one deserves to be treated with this form or any form of abuse. If you missed any of these episodes, you can find links to all of them near the end of the blog post or in the podcast player below.

This episode, will be the start of a new series which involves the 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Awareness Avocation. I CANNOT believe this is my second event and I just want to say for those of you who supported me through the last one, I really appreciate it. For those who are supporting me in the 2nd one, thank you so much. You have really given me so much energy I can hardly keep up with myself. Now for those who would like to get involved with the annual sexual assault Instagram challenge, go to Instagram and in the search box enter “nsvrc“. Those initials stand for National Sexual Violence Resource Center, and they have daily prompts you can scroll down to and participate with the rest of us in support of survivors of sexual assault and sexual violence. 

Leave a comment after listening to today’s episode or by the voice message feature on the podcast. I would love to hear from you.

2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim Proactive Eye™

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault. According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.  A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence. Last week's episode National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal With Granny Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/   Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/  ***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny Connect with me: Heal With Granny  LinkedIn  Alignable  HappsTV Instagram – @proactiveeye Twitter – @proactiveeye Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/ — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/support
  1. 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim
  2. 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation
  3. Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness
  4. Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself
  5. Quarter 1 Q&A

 

Transition Series:

From Toxicity to Wholesomeness

Fearful to Fearless

Confusion to Clarity

Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself

Dealing With Loneliness

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474.

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 
 
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My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.
Thank you for listening.  I appreciate your support.
Much love, peace, light, and healing vibes family!

Granny💚💜💙

HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Official PROACTIVE EYE-1 logo
Instagram – @proactiveeye 
Twitter – @proactiveeye 
Happs – @ElegantGranny
Email: proactiveeye@gmail.com

Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness

Last episode, I continued the transitions series talking about rebuilding a relationship with yourself, and in that episode, I gave four different ways you can accomplish this while transitioning after a life of abuse. If you missed that episode, the link will be near the end of the blog post.

Today’s episode will be the final installment of the transitions series, and we are going to focus on dealing with loneliness while transitioning.

Survivors of abuse have a hard time letting go of feelings just like everyone else. This is why in a previous episode I stated that the first 90 days are very crucial. Just because it was necessary to end the relationship and the survivor is now in a safe place does not mean their feelings for the one they left has ended. It takes time. And the longer a survivor has been with that person, the harder it is to heal. Love is not something you can turn off or on like a light switch. It is a matter of a growth and maturity which requires patience. Getting over that person involves the same thing. This time instead of having patience towards the other person you are in a relationship with, it is important that the survivor understands it is time to redirect that patience towards themselves. And to best support them, supporters – survivors need a lot of patience from you.

For those of you who are survivors, Granny wants to say – YOU GOT THIS! You are embarking on a new journey now so be proud of yourself. Yes it feels like hell because you still love them, but that’s OK. That just confirms you’re still human. What is not OK, is you still being in a space where they or anyone else can harm you in any shape or form.

Leave a comment after listening to today’s episode or by the voice message feature on the podcast. I would love to hear from you.

 

2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim Proactive Eye™

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault. According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.  A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence. Last week's episode National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal With Granny Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/   Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/  ***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny Connect with me: Heal With Granny  LinkedIn  Alignable  HappsTV Instagram – @proactiveeye Twitter – @proactiveeye Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/ — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/support
  1. 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim
  2. 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation
  3. Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness
  4. Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself
  5. Quarter 1 Q&A

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474.

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 
 
*
My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.
Thank you for listening.  I appreciate your support.
Much love, peace, light, and healing vibes family!

Granny💚💜💙

HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Official PROACTIVE EYE-1 logo
Instagram – @proactiveeye 
Twitter – @proactiveeye 
Happs – @ElegantGranny
Email: proactiveeye@gmail.com

Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself

Last week, I interrupted the series to conduct the quarterly Q&A that was promised on the assigned date. As always, there were a lot of great questions and most of them had to do with things that trigger survivors of abuse and also about the work I do outside the podcast. If you missed the last episode, the link will be near the end of the blog post.

Before the Q&A last week, I started a series on the different things victims and survivors of abuse face as they are transitioning from their toxic relationships. The last one was on confusion to clarity, and in that episode, I suggested what the most important thing is with a few examples that need to be confronted first in order to have a smoother transition from a life of abuse. If you missed that episode, this link will also be near the end of the blog post.

Today’s episode will be back on track with the transition series, and today’s topic is rebuilding a relationship with yourself. Getting back to the most important person in your life – YOU – is a big deal because what generally happens as you are in an abusive relationship, absolutely everything is about the abuser and no one else, so the importance of your/kids existence (or the relationship with yourself) tend to fade. With this in mind, I will share a few things that could help. Tune in with the podcast player below to discover some things you can do to get back to yourself.

 

2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim Proactive Eye™

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault. According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.  A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence. Last week's episode National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal With Granny Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/   Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/  ***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny Connect with me: Heal With Granny  LinkedIn  Alignable  HappsTV Instagram – @proactiveeye Twitter – @proactiveeye Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/ — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/support
  1. 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim
  2. 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation
  3. Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness
  4. Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself
  5. Quarter 1 Q&A

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474.

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 
 
*
My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.
Thank you for listening.  I appreciate your support.
Much love, peace, light, and healing vibes family!

Granny💚💜💙

HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Official PROACTIVE EYE-1 logo
Instagram – @proactiveeye 
Twitter – @proactiveeye 
Happs – @ElegantGranny
Email: proactiveeye@gmail.com

Q&A (Quarter 1)

Circa 2014. Photographed by Kenius Entertainment.

Last week, I spoke about how survivors sometimes have difficulty getting started adjusting and starting over fresh after leaving a toxic relationship. Many times it is hard to know where to begin on your journey of healing and freedom, and I gave one of the most important areas in a survivor’s life to begin with. Hopefully, it is useful for you to support someone you know who has transitioned out of an abusive relationship or if you are in need of the information from that episode, it is still there for you.  If you missed the last episode, the link will be near the end of the blog post.

Today’s episode will be the quarterly Q & A. I did a previous Q&A on my birthday which happened to fall on one of the Friday’s I normally post episodes. That session appeared to have a common theme where most questions were about my healing journey and how best to begin your own. If you missed that episode, it will be linked for you near the end of the blog post.

The questions for this episode seem to be more about triggers, and they are pertaining to the work I do outside the podcast. For those who do not know, I am a Restoration Strategist supporting victims and survivors of abuse as they transition from toxic relationships. I also share resources with their supporters (friends, family, or coworkers) with resources to help them transition successfully. Just so you know, the website is being updated and will have new services released in Quarter 2. The tentative date is April 1, but I will keep you updated on the actual date of release. Tune in to the Q&A session in the podcast player below. If you have more questions, comments, or concerns, you can reach me by email located at the bottom of the post.

2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim Proactive Eye™

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault. According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.  A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence. Last week's episode National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal With Granny Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/   Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/  ***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny Connect with me: Heal With Granny  LinkedIn  Alignable  HappsTV Instagram – @proactiveeye Twitter – @proactiveeye Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/ — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/support
  1. 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim
  2. 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation
  3. Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness
  4. Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself
  5. Quarter 1 Q&A

LAST WEEK’S EPISODE

BIRTHDAY Q&A

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474.

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 
 
*
My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.
Thank you for listening.  I appreciate your support.
Much love, peace, light, and healing vibes family!

Granny💚💜💙

HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Official PROACTIVE EYE-1 logo
Instagram – @proactiveeye 
Twitter – @proactiveeye 
Happs – @ElegantGranny
Email: proactiveeye@gmail.com

Transitions – Confusion to Clarity

Last week, I spoke about some of the fears survivors of abuse experience and some ways you, the supporter, can assist them rising from those fears and take control of their lives. Fear can be debilitating; having someone in their corner to alleviate the agony of those fear factors keeping them from moving forward can make transitioning much easier. If you missed the last episode discussing fearful to fearless, the link will be near the end of the blog post.

Today’s episode will be about going from confusion to clarity.

A survivor, if they were not able to research how best to set their lives up for success once they leave a toxic situation, may not know what is available or if they even qualify for assistance that can help them get back on their feet. Sometimes, being thrown a lot of options, and opinions, at one time is overwhelming; so let me give you some things to help someone you know are transitioning or if you are the one transitioning from a life of abuse. I listed a few things you can do to get started and get some clarity on your life in the podcast player below.

2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim Proactive Eye™

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault. According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.  A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence. Last week's episode National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal With Granny Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/   Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/  ***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny Connect with me: Heal With Granny  LinkedIn  Alignable  HappsTV Instagram – @proactiveeye Twitter – @proactiveeye Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/ — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/support
  1. 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim
  2. 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation
  3. Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness
  4. Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself
  5. Quarter 1 Q&A

LAST WEEK’S EPISODE

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474.

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 
 
*
My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.
Thank you for listening.  I appreciate your support.
Much love, peace, light, and healing vibes family!

Granny💚💜💙

HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Official PROACTIVE EYE-1 logo
Instagram – @proactiveeye 
Twitter – @proactiveeye 
Happs – @ElegantGranny
Email: proactiveeye@gmail.com

Moving From Fearful to Fearless After a Life of Abuse

Last week, I started a series called Transitions, and in that introductory episode, I spoke briefly about the difficulty of leaving a toxic relationship. As hard as it is doing that, it is equally hard evolving into a healed individual; mainly because as someone works on healing, they have to confront all the darkness they went through and process ‘out loud’ how it makes them feel and how they want to change it now that they have the opportunity to do so. Now when I delivered that installment, I did it as a message to those who support or would like to support those they know or love through their transition from a life of abuse. The remainder of this series will continue that same tone. Most of what I speak of in this series will be from my personal experience as well as the experiences of others I have worked with. If you missed the last episode, the link will be near the end of the blog post.

Today’s episode will be about moving from a fearful to a fearless lifestyle.

An innumerable amount of things can assist someone moving from fearful to fearless. The three things of discussion today are:

  1. Triggers – things that affect a survivor causing them to have flashbacks of an abusive occurrence.
  2. Finances – how to get started on your fiscal fitness
  3. Setting goals – how do you want your life to look like now that you are free
  4. BONUS – Trust!

 

2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim Proactive Eye™

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault. According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.  A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence. Last week's episode National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal With Granny Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/   Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/  ***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny Connect with me: Heal With Granny  LinkedIn  Alignable  HappsTV Instagram – @proactiveeye Twitter – @proactiveeye Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/ — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/support
  1. 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim
  2. 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation
  3. Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness
  4. Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself
  5. Quarter 1 Q&A

Last Week’s Episode

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474.

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 
 
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My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.
Thank you for listening.  I appreciate your support.
Much love, peace, light, and healing vibes family!

Granny💚💜💙

HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

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Email: proactiveeye@gmail.com

 

Transitions – From Toxicity to Wholesomeness

Last time I was on, which was two weeks ago, I did a birthday Q&A session. Y’all came up with some great questions. Most of them had to do with how I dealt with healing after leaving a toxic relationship. I only answered 10, but there are more questions that will be answered in the next Q&A session near the end of the first quarter. If you missed the last episode with the Q&A, the link will be near the end of the blog post. Today’s episode will be about transitioning from toxicity to wholesomeness.

As difficult as it is leaving out of a toxic relationship, it is equally hard evolving into a healed individual; mainly because as someone works on healing, they have to confront all the darkness they went through and process ‘out loud’ how it makes them feel and how they want to change it now that they have the opportunity to do so. A few phases victims and survivors of abuse go through as they transition smoothly from toxicity to wholesomeness are:

        1. fearful to fearless,
        2. confused to clarity, and
        3. rebuild a relationship with themselves

Each of these will be dealt with as this episode has now become the start of a series. Tune in to the episode by the player below or by clicking the podcast link near the end of the blog post.

2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim Proactive Eye™

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault. According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.  A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence. Last week's episode National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal With Granny Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/   Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/  ***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny Connect with me: Heal With Granny  LinkedIn  Alignable  HappsTV Instagram – @proactiveeye Twitter – @proactiveeye Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/ — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/support
  1. 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim
  2. 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation
  3. Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness
  4. Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself
  5. Quarter 1 Q&A

Last week’s episode

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474.

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 
 
*
My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.
Thank you for listening.  I appreciate your support.
Much love, peace, light, and healing vibes family!

Granny💚💜💙

HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Official PROACTIVE EYE-1 logo
Instagram – @proactiveeye 
Twitter – @proactiveeye 
Email: proactiveeye@gmail.com

Birthday Q & A

Circa 2014 while modeling and speaking at a Natural Hair show in Central VA. Photography by Personal Touch Digital Studios.

Yes, it is my birthday and I am celebrating a little different today. I have decided to celebrate doing things I love like spending time with you all as I do every Friday. Spending time with my book club doing a WAM review on the current book we are reading. Speaking of which, I will be live on Facebook and YouTube with Dr. Tammy Francis and Nina Motivates as we do a WAM review on Dr. Tammy’s latest book R.E.A.P. More. WAM stands for Women Aspiring for More and it is a book club I have been a part of the last year or two. If you care to join us, here is the link where you can join the book club and the conversation on the WAM Review. Last week on the review was a lot of fun and I decided instead of skipping out this week due to my birthday, I wanted to join in. I always had a fascination with books since childhood and I cannot think of a better way of celebrating than with friends and a good book to review. We will go live on Facebook and on YouTube 3pm EST today. And again, you will find us here. You can look at last week’s review here.

Last week’s episode was about living that VIP status after surviving a life of abuse and managing your healing journey.  There’s no one else in this world more important than you, and it is high time you treated yourself as such. If you missed that episode, the link will be near the end of the blog post.

Today’s episode I will answer several questions I was saving for a quarterly Q & A but decided because of the amount of questions I received, to split them up and do a number of them now. So let’s get to it!

2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim Proactive Eye™

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault. According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.  A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence. Last week's episode National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal With Granny Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/   Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/  ***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny Connect with me: Heal With Granny  LinkedIn  Alignable  HappsTV Instagram – @proactiveeye Twitter – @proactiveeye Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/ — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/support
  1. 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim
  2. 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation
  3. Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness
  4. Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself
  5. Quarter 1 Q&A

Last week’s episode

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474.

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 
 
*
My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.
Thank you for listening.  I appreciate your support.
Much love, peace, light, and healing vibes family!

Granny💚💜💙

HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

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Instagram – @proactiveeye 
Twitter – @proactiveeye 
Email: proactiveeye@gmail.com

Living That VIP Status

Last week I gave my top 3 things I consider most important to help you with your journey of surviving and being at peace after escaping a life of abuse. There are many more, and as we journey together in 2021, we will get to them. The 3 I shared last week are the easiest, in my opinion and experience, to start with. If you missed that episode, the link will be in the show notes and near the end of the blog post.

Today’s episode will be about living that VIP status.

 

No one in this world should be more important to you than you, and this is also for those who have not experienced abuse. In any given situation, it is necessary that whatever, or whoever, you are engaged in or with brings you peace and things you want to manifest. If that’s not happening, there is a problem.

Living that VIP status will help you gain momentum of continuing your life of freedom after a life of abuse. Tune into today’s topic on the podcast player below. Feel free to leave comments, questions, or concerns afterwards. I would love to hear from you.

 

2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim Proactive Eye™

This episode will about the victims experience with sexual violence and sexual assault. According to the RAINN website (Rape, abuse, and incest national network), every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted; and every 9 minutes, that victim is a child. From 2009-2013, Child Protective Services agencies substantiated, or found strong evidence to indicate that, 63,000 children a year were victims of sexual abuse.  A majority of child victims are 12-17. Of victims under the age of 18: 34% of victims of sexual assault and rape are under age 12, and 66% of victims of sexual assault and rape are age 12-17. Meanwhile, only 5 out of every 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison. Every day, hundreds of Americans are affected by sexual violence. Last week's episode National Sexual Violence Resource Center Instagram Challenge Publications Support Proactive Eye podcast Support Heal With Granny Email: proactiveye@gmail.com Please make use of these resources: If you are in immediate danger, call *911 National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255 National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/   Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/  ***************************************************************************************************************************************************HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny Connect with me: Heal With Granny  LinkedIn  Alignable  HappsTV Instagram – @proactiveeye Twitter – @proactiveeye Reference: RAINN. (2021). National Sexual Assault Hotline. RAINN. https://www.rainn.org/ — Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/elegant-granny/support
  1. 2nd Annual Sexual Violence Avocation – Experiencing Sexual Assault/Asexual Violence As A Victim
  2. 2nd Annual Proactive Eye Sexual Violence Avocation
  3. Transitions – Dealing With Loneliness
  4. Transitions – Rebuilding A Relationship With Yourself
  5. Quarter 1 Q&A

Last week’s episode

If you are under the sound of my voice, and you are someone who is thinking of a way out, reach out to someone you trust to talk. If you do not have someone you trust to talk about it to, you can call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1 (800) 799-7233. If you are unable to speak safely, you can text LOVEIS to 1 (866) 331-9474.

If you are someone considering suicide 1 (800) 273-8255. If you are a Veteran press option 1. If you prefer to text rather than talk, you can text TALK to 741741 and text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7.

For all emergencies dial *911.

Please make use of these resources:

If you are in immediate danger, call *911

National Domestic Violence hotline 1(800)799-SAFE
National Child Abuse hotline 1(800)4-A-Child
National Sexual Assault hotline 1(800)656-HOPE
National Suicide Prevention hotline 1(800)273-8255
National Sexual Violence Resource Center:  https://www.nsvrc.org/ 
Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network: https://www.rainn.org/ 
 
*
My hope is that everyone is in a safe place and enjoying time with their loved ones.
Thank you for listening.  I appreciate your support.
Much love, peace, light, and healing vibes family!

Granny💚💜💙

HEALING IS A CONTINUOUS PROCESS; NOT A ONE SHOT DEAL! ~ Elegant Granny

Connect with me:

Official PROACTIVE EYE-1 logo
Instagram – @proactiveeye 
Twitter – @proactiveeye 
Email: proactiveeye@gmail.com